DON'T TRY TO CEMENT YOUR RELATIONSHIP
You can have friendships, you can have casual relationships, but never go beyond casualness. Don't make them permanent. DON'T TRY TO CEMENT YOUR RELATIONSHIP -- that will kill you both. REMAIN FREE.
One of the wisest steps is to NEVER LIVE WITH THE WOMAN YOU LOVE. Live separately, so you are free to be alone, she is free to be alone. NEVER MAKE PROMISES AND COMMITMENTS, never demand that only you should be loved. On the contrary, if your woman or your man on the weekends takes a little joy in somebody else, it is perfectly good for a change. And after the change, back to the working days, it feels better. One is rested, and one's mind is no more wandering, and one knows that this woman or that, this man or that, they are all the same. When the light is turned off, then all differences disappear!
SO JUST ENJOY YOUR ALONENESS. That does not mean that you have to remain without creating any friends, but make it clear always... At least my people should remember it. THE OLD WORLD HAS SUFFERED SO MUCH because these simple things were not understood, and they made it almost compulsory that you have to be together once you have decided to be with someone. This goes against man's frailty, man's weakness.
Man is not made of steel. WHAT IS LOVE TODAY, TOMORROW MAY NOT BE. If tomorrow somebody else catches your eye, what can you do about it? THE OLD MAN USED TO REPRESS IT, but when you repress something, it turns into anger against the woman whom you are now tied to like a prisoner. The woman hates the husband because she is tied.
Just a few days ago one sannyasin was saying, "I HAVE GIVEN HIM ENOUGH ROPE." What do you think your husband is -- a dog? You are giving enough rope, but the rope is in your hands. The moment you see the dog has seen some other girlfriend, you pull the rope back: "You son of a bitch, come back!" This is not love, this is pure politics. It is a lust for power, domination.
—OSHO—
The New Dawn
Ch #30: The path goes round and round
am in Chuang Tzu Auditorium
One of the wisest steps is to NEVER LIVE WITH THE WOMAN YOU LOVE. Live separately, so you are free to be alone, she is free to be alone. NEVER MAKE PROMISES AND COMMITMENTS, never demand that only you should be loved. On the contrary, if your woman or your man on the weekends takes a little joy in somebody else, it is perfectly good for a change. And after the change, back to the working days, it feels better. One is rested, and one's mind is no more wandering, and one knows that this woman or that, this man or that, they are all the same. When the light is turned off, then all differences disappear!
SO JUST ENJOY YOUR ALONENESS. That does not mean that you have to remain without creating any friends, but make it clear always... At least my people should remember it. THE OLD WORLD HAS SUFFERED SO MUCH because these simple things were not understood, and they made it almost compulsory that you have to be together once you have decided to be with someone. This goes against man's frailty, man's weakness.
Man is not made of steel. WHAT IS LOVE TODAY, TOMORROW MAY NOT BE. If tomorrow somebody else catches your eye, what can you do about it? THE OLD MAN USED TO REPRESS IT, but when you repress something, it turns into anger against the woman whom you are now tied to like a prisoner. The woman hates the husband because she is tied.
Just a few days ago one sannyasin was saying, "I HAVE GIVEN HIM ENOUGH ROPE." What do you think your husband is -- a dog? You are giving enough rope, but the rope is in your hands. The moment you see the dog has seen some other girlfriend, you pull the rope back: "You son of a bitch, come back!" This is not love, this is pure politics. It is a lust for power, domination.
—OSHO—
The New Dawn
Ch #30: The path goes round and round
am in Chuang Tzu Auditorium
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